Sending out an S.O.S.
Today's story is a portion of conversation I held back from the "Don't count your chickens before they are hatched" guy. You can read that story by clicking here.
“I need to get out of my dad’s house, move in with you, so we can get married and you can rescue me.”
This is how he started the conversation on day 3.
Mayday. Mayday. Houston, we have a problem.
I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. I’m not here to rescue anyone. My goal is to find someone who is living their life, doing their thing, while I’m living my life and doing my thing. The hope is that we'd eventually merge lives and do our things together. Companionship, friendship, passion and excitement; throw some loyalty in there and we have a good foundation for a relationship.
I'm not quite sure why these guys think they can move in with me. Need I remind you of "Cry me a river" guy?
I don't feel the need to be rescued, and I certainly don't want to rescue a man. I will, however, open myself up to people I want to date and really get to know them. Friendship is really important to me. I feel you need to establish a baseline of friendship first and things can begin to fall into place after that.
I’m not desperate though, and I’m definitely not looking to be a heroine either.
The American dream has a lot of us thinking that we have to have it all; own a home, have a fulfilling job, have a family with 2.5 children. I'm fortunate to have accomplished some of these dreams. I also recognize that everyone has their own journey. BUT I'm pretty sure your journey does not involve me taking you in.
I feel for this almost-40 year old guy whose end game is to move in with a woman he barely knows. He has a long, hard road ahead if he doesn't figure things out soon.
This is why you're single:
- You are over 30 and still live at home with no plans to move out…
- You are trying to find anyone who will take you in…
- You don’t take responsibility for your own life…
The game of life is not easy at times, but we all have to make the best of the hand we’re dealt. Outside of an illness or injury, never expect someone to take care of you, especially if you can’t even take care of yourself.
What are your thoughts about living together? When's the best time in a relationship to move in together? Let me know in the comments below.