Weekend Warrior

Weekend Warrior

It was a Friday night.


We met for the first time at a fancy burger joint. He was cute. Salt and pepper hair, nice smile, dimples, dressed to impress. Our conversation was really good and we were getting along really well. We continued our date at a nearby coffee shop, where we talked more and looked through his photography portfolio. He had just started his photography business and it was starting to take off. It was a really great evening.

We set up a movie and dinner date for the next night.

We met at the front of the theater. He purchased the tickets and we went in. He asked if I would like any snacks. I said, "Sure, I'll have some popcorn". He also asked if I wanted a drink, to which I said, "No thank you." He asked, "Are you sure?" and I answered, "Yes.". In a span of what felt like 5 minutes, he repeatedly asked me if I wanted anything else, if I was sure, and if I wanted to share something, but I was truly content with with my popcorn. I repeatedly said, "Thank you. I appreciate you asking, but popcorn is enough for me. I'll wait for dinner after the movie."

He wanted to order a meal. He hadn't eaten much that day and couldn't wait for dinner and kept saying he didn’t want to eat alone. I told him he wouldn't be eating alone, I would be eating popcorn with him. It was a bit annoying, but I just met this guy yesterday, so I was just trying to spend time with him and get to know him. 

He finally ordered. The food came and we settled into our seats.


During the movie he moved in closer and took my hand. It was a perfect set up being that we had reclining seats. Although, there's one thing - I have bad circulation, and if I sit too long I have to readjust my limbs because they fall asleep. At some point during the movie my arm was starting to fall asleep. I slowly let go of his hand, shifted my arm a bit and took his hand back.  The movie ended. We went to dinner after and the night was over.

We planned to have dinner again the next evening.

Since I had driven to his area the day before, he came to my area this time. The plan was for him to come to my house and we'd walk over to the restaurant. When he showed up, he said he needed to do something for work real quick and then we could go. He pulled out his laptop and started typing away. Meanwhile, I continued watching YouTube.

After he was finished, he closed his laptop and asked, "Why don't you like me?". I was complete shocked by this question. “Huh? What do you mean?”, I said. He then mentions how I had pulled my hand away at the movies. I explained to him that my arm was going numb and I just needed to readjust. I reminded him that I took his hand again shortly after. He didn’t think that made sense and chose to believe that I wasn’t interested. 

He started to pack up his laptop and said he was going to put it in his car and then we could go to dinner. We walked out together. He put his things in the car and then came back over to me and said he wasn’t feeling well, so he's not going to go to dinner. At this point, I was really confused, but could sense he just wanted to escape. I asked if I would see him again. He kissed me goodbye and said he’d call me later.

He got into his car and was never to be heard from or seen again.

This is why you're single:

  1. You don’t believe people at their word…
  2. You’re overly sensitive…
  3. You expect people to react a certain way and get disappointed when they don't…

Sometimes people over complicate dating. If it has been less than 2-3 months of me knowing you, you can’t expect me to be head over heels in love with you, but I will show you I like you and I'm interested. Holding hands is a pretty good indicator of that, or at least I thought so.

5 Ways to Tell That Someone Likes You
(Five nonverbal signals that let you know the person you’re with likes you.)

1. mutual eye contact
2. a light touch
3. mirroring
4. inward leaning
5. barriers
— John R. "Jack" Schafer, Ph.D., Psychology Today

What about you? Have you ever had a weekend warrior? How do you show people you are interested in them? Let me know in the comments below.


Communication is key

Communication is key

Cry me a river

Cry me a river